What this is, and what it isn’t.
See Yourself Out is good for some things and bad for others. Reading this once will save you from using it for the wrong reason.
What this is
A writing tool for short, hard messages.
Breakup texts. Replies to people who ghosted you. Apologies. The kind of message you've been rewriting in your head for days but can't get out of your thumbs.
A way to see your own choice on the page.
Three drafts at three temperatures. Reading them next to each other usually makes the right one obvious. Sometimes you'll edit one. Sometimes you'll write your own from scratch after reading ours. Both count.
Free to use. Forever.
No accounts. No paywall. No upsell. Ad-supported, and that's the whole business model. The drafts you get are the same drafts everyone gets.
Private by design.
We don't store, log, or train on what you write. Your inputs go to the drafting service once, the drafts come back, and then the inputs are gone. Drafts live in your browser tab until you close it.
What this isn't
Therapy.
If you need to talk through what you're feeling, please talk to a person. A therapist, a friend, a hotline. The drafts here are for messages you've already decided to send. They are not a substitute for processing the underlying thing.
Legal advice.
Anything that involves contracts, custody, harassment, restraining orders, or formal complaints needs a lawyer or the appropriate authority. We can't help with those messages and won't try.
A tool for cruelty.
We won't draft slurs, threats, or messages aimed at humiliating someone. We won't write to or about minors. The hard refusal isn't a feature, it's the floor.
For long, serious relationships.
If the relationship is years long, lives-together-shaped, married, or built around children, please don't text. Call. Or see them. We built this for shorter, lower-stakes endings: three-month situationships, not three-year partnerships.
A reason to send the message.
If you're not sure you should send it, that's your answer for today. The drafts will still be here tomorrow. Don't let a tool talk you into sending something you'll wish you hadn't.
Where to go instead
If this site is the wrong tool, here are the right ones.
If you're in crisis.
Please call a crisis line. In the US, 988 (call or text). In the UK, Samaritans at 116 123. Outside those: list of international crisis lines.
If you're in an unsafe relationship.
In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233 (call or text START to 88788). Outside the US: list of international DV hotlines.
If you want a therapist.
In the US, Psychology Today's directory is the most-used starting point. Many therapists offer sliding-scale fees if cost is a concern.